photp Sunday delay - playdate woes

It started when one of the girls in 6's class wanted to come for a playdate. Worked it out with her mom for yesterday. Another girl wnated to come to and begged me to work it out with her mom. So arranged...but I hate 3's! So I invited another girl to join in - the most mature, girl in 6's group of ffriends - a lovely child.

Friday - child 2 is sick and can't come. #$%^. Back to 3 kids. Saturday morning, sick child's mom calls - she's feeling better. Whew. back to 4. then, 4th child's parents call. She's sick. Back to 3. ahhhh!

6 took 2 karate classes in the morning. We had a talk about the 2 girls who were coming and how they liked very differrent things, and how important it was to make sure they were both involved in whatever as going on. The first girl was to arrive at 1pm. She showed up right on time. 6 was a mess. Wanted to play with the rats. This girl DOES NOT LIKE RATS! 6 can't drop it. Tantrum. Upstairs sulking. Her friend is stupid - she just wants to stand there and look at the stupid bird. (Apparently stupid was the adjective of the day)

6 continued with her single-minded determination that they would play with rats. Convinced them to go skating. 6 is a speed demon - an adventurer on the ice. Wild, reckless, jumping, spinning, crashing. Her friend wears figure skates. Stupid. Her friend can skate on one foot. Stupid. 6 brags she is better. 6 is now completely out of control - mean mouthed and obnoxious. Her friend sas she can call her parents to pick her up anytime.

The other friend shows up. Comes out on the rink. She is not a skater. 6 is grabbing her legs and arms, knocking her off balance. I can not get her off the ice - she's too fast and too big to fight with. She is zoned out and will not listen. Feels like disaster to me!

I got on the ice and distracted 6. Play tag. Let her take out her hositlity and energy on me. We all played tag for about 30 minutes. The kids wanted to go inside. They decided to play with the rats. Upstairs went the 3. Played really well for 2 hours.

Whew.

I do not understand how to get through to 6 about her behaviour. After - last night - we talked. She understood that she was over the top and inappropriate. She just did not know how to shake off the mood.

More to ponder. How to help? I see now that the teachers must see at school and understand their concern...

thinking...